by Sara Fadlalla
Who are some of the only people who have known you for your entire life, who love you more than anyone else, and whose happiness will get you into Jannah? Your parents! The importance of parents is stressed throughout Islam, and respecting our parents is one of the most important things we can do in order to get into Jannah.
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent.”
Although the pleasure of the parent is critical for our entrance into Jannah, so many times we forget and feel like “our parents don’t get it” or what they say is “so unfair,” but remembering the previous hadith and the ones I will add in this post should always be held as crucial tenants to our inner Iman, or faith.
Ibn ‘Abbas said, “If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him.” He was asked, “Even if they wrong him?” “Even if they wrong him” he replied.
This hadith is very important in driving home just how ingrained respect for our parents is in our entrance into Jannah. Remembering that even when we think “that was so unfair” that Allah (Swt) still holds our parents’ pleasure higher than our feeling wronged or “unfairly” treated by our parents. Building a relationship with our parents is one way to avoid feeling unfairly treated. I learned over the years that when something at face value felt unfair, understanding the reasoning my parents had behind their decision made that feeling of unfairness completely disappear, and in turn results in a stronger relationship with your parents and a stronger relationship with Allah (Swt).
This next hadith is one of my favorites:
Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children.”
Even if the pleasure of Allah (Swt) and the pleasure of our parents is not enough to get us to respect and honor our parents, this hadith about whose du’a is answered should be even more reason to respect and honor our parents. The du’a of a mother and father for their children is undoubtedly answered, so not only can we trust our parents having the best intentions for us, we can then believe that Allah (Swt) will grant what is best for us.
Remembering these few ahadith about parents and loving and respecting them definitely should help us keep in mind that all that they want for us is the best and Allah (Swt) likewise places importance on our parents, so we most certainly should too. Love your parents, and always pray for them and inshaAllah Allah (Swt) protects them and us in this and the next life! Ameen!